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When you are at work, do you get frustrated because things don’t seem to be happening the way they’re supposed to be? You see people milling around but nothing gets accomplished. And in the daily hustle and bustle, do you feel that your goals remain just that – goals. Then maybe its time for you to stand up and do something about it.

Most people are content just to stand around listening for orders. Read the rest of this entry »

How many times have you caught yourself saying that there could be no other solution to a problem – and that that problem leads to a dead end? How many times have you felt stumped knowing that the problem laying before you is one you cannot solve. No leads.  No options.  No solutions. 

Did it feel like you had exhausted all possible options and yet are still before the mountain – large, unconquerable, and impregnable? Read the rest of this entry »

I was speaking with a recent client when the subject of negotiations came up.

How can I ensure that I have the “EDGE” when entering into any negotiation?

That’s when it occurred to me… he already had the answer for which he was seeking.

Let’s look more closely at what Read the rest of this entry »

I was watching the cartoon Charlie Brown the other night with my boys and two scenes really stuck out in my mind - not just from childhood memories but as life lessons for all to embrace.

The first is Snoopy as the fighting ace in search of the Red Baron. No matter how prepared he is, he always seems to get shot down.

The second is Charlie Brown and Lucy playing football. Read the rest of this entry »

A good coaching buddy of mine, Joe White, once said that “The only thing that keeps anyone from getting what they want are the stories they tell themselves over and over again about why they can’t get what they want.”

Sound familiar?

How is it that we as a society have allowed ourselves to be our worst enemies when it comes to getting what we want? Sure, we are quick to blame others for our situations but Read the rest of this entry »

When you look at your life and what you have accomplished thus far, my hopes and prayers are that you are fully satisfied with what you have found. My experience, however, is that most people haven’t quite reached their full potential and are seeking further answers to how they may find the success they are seeking.

Let me add this excerpt from Maxwell Maltz’s Psycho-Cybernetics:

Whenever resolution is incongruent with self-image, Read the rest of this entry »

For your next mission, should you choose to accept it…

For the next 2 days, I want you to take just 1 of the 5 behaviors that you have written out above and I want you to act that way for the duration of those 2 days.

Pretend that you have been given Read the rest of this entry »

Are you ready to have some fun?

Are you ready to go beyond enemy lines in the duty for queen and country?

Ok, ok I know I’m getting carried away – how about completing another confidence building exercise instead?!

Success leaves clues wherever it goes… Read the rest of this entry »

The people whom you have the most contact with and hang around will have either a positive or negative affect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.

We all know those people who are positive, happy and joyful to be around.

How do they make you feel?

Yes, they make you feel the same! They can put zest into a boring Read the rest of this entry »

11. Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and say is this really important in the grand scheme of things. A lot of the time it isn’t. Many people in life major in minor things!

12. Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem it’s what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking that’s the problem. Change the way you think.

13. List the words that you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word – this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a little annoyed”. Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they are lower in intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised with the results.

14. At the end of each day

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